The Wisdom of Eric

In relation to each other

Eric once commented that I was ‘a resolute pessimist’.  He’s correct of course.  I learned to think the worst is going to happen even when everything is going well. That way, when it all goes ‘Pete Tong’, I will not be disappointed

With Eric, it was a bit like being with a master sculptor who was chipping away at a block of stone called my pessimism.

I remember once that we had a warm discussion about what others expect of us.  Eric noted that if it is anything like he feels when he is with me, it is like I am waiting for him to tell me what to do, instead of realising we are in relation with each other.

A partnership of equals if you will.  We both learn and we are both shaped by our experience of each other. I keep wanting to have the right answer for every situation, but it's dawning on me that there is no right answer.  Letting go I feel powerless, but it is in my powerlessness that the relationship between myself and the other occurs.    It is in this powerlessness that a shared mutuality grows, and I need to trust it.

I need to let go, and trust that it will not go ‘Pete Tong’, as long as my authenticity within, shines through to my intent and actions on the out with.

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