The Wisdom of Eric

When someone you love is in psychological distress

Often when we meet others, who are in psychological pain or distress, it can feel like they are asking us to fix them or at the very least tell them what is wrong with them.  And when this plea comes from a deep place of connection and love, say a family member, it can feel overwhelming and compelling to try ‘heal’ them.

My belief is, that when we are in relation to one another, from a place of love, service and vulnerability, we enter a sacred, but shared space, where what is unconsciously going on for each other, becomes connected and where we experience each other at a deep and profound level.

But there is a warning for me.  For the compulsion to fix or heal the other is in my ego.  In effect, I weaken the connection as it becomes about me and not us.  If I can accept my ego, but not succumb to the urge to tell my loved one what they must do, then as I was reminded of by Eric, the more I let go and just be with my loved one, the more my own higher self, has the opportunity to tune in and align with them.

Ah, but here’s the rub. Sometimes the hardest thing is trusting that those you love will come to heal in their own time. I think I have learned that I constantly need to remind myself, that I can only be with the other as a fellow traveller on the journey of life, separate paths perhaps, but one ultimate shared destination.

As Eric says, our Ego is great until it thinks it is right.

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